Spring is officially here. The periods of rain and sun are greening things up and tiny crocuses, violets and daffodils are beginning to pop up in our gardens and yards. New life is abundant in spring and the beauty that accompanies this new life, feels renewing.
When someone is grieving they may not feel this sense of renewal. The pain is still there, not melted away with the last of winter’s snow. Grief doesn’t go away with the seasons but spring can be a reminder that no matter what we are dealing with in life, nature’s changes continue, and that can offer hope.
Expectations are high in spring. Just as the gardener has to till the ground, fertilize and plant seeds to see new growth, those who grieve also have work to do to see growth. Reach out to others for support, be gentle and patient with yourself, go for walks and enjoy the affirmations of spring. Be open to letting some of the hope that spring has to offer into your heart.
Grief, like spring, has its own rhythm that is often unexpected. One day it may be warm, the next cold. It may rain one day, be sunny the next. In grief, one day we may be energetic, laughing and feeling some sense of normalcy and then the next burst into tears, feeling the deep loss and sadness of our loss. But what we do know is that spring will come and with it change. Grief doesn’t just go away but it will change. Just like spring it takes time.
Janice Heil sums this up in her poem, A Prayer for Spring, when she writes “Like Springtime, let me unfold and grow fresh and anew from this cocoon of grief that has been spun around me. Help me face the harsh reality of sunshine and renewed life as my bones still creak from the winter of my grief. Life has dared to go on around me and, as I recover from the insult of life’s continuance, I adjust my focus to include healing and growth as possibility in my future. Give me strength to break out of the cocoon of my grief, but may I never forget it is the place where I grew my wings, becoming a new person because of my loss.”
by: Christie Gillett, Grief Support Coordinator